Tonight I was reading this post on a friend’s blog Chilling Words, and his post brought up a very thought provoking issue, personal intrusions. Please read his post before you read below, because it will make much more sense.
I posted the following comment on his site, and I post it here, not because I am “The Ultimate Giver of Truth”, but because he provoked my thoughts quite a bit, and I think it might provoke yours as well.
Since I read your post, I have been really mulling this over in my mind, and this is what I have come up with.
I think this entire issue is one of heart condition. If the Holy Spirit is leading you to ask someone even a prying (or not so) personal question, you had better ask it. However, if the Holy Spirit is not causing the motivation, but you are doing it out of simple curiosity or even pride, then beware. I think this applies to people whom we know well and are closely accountable to, or even a brother in Christ whom you have never met before.
When a prying (or not so) personal question gets asked of you, your response is also going to be determined by your heart condition. You can’t know the heart condition of the person asking, so you must rely on the Holy Spirit to guide you in your answer. Perhaps you are struggling in that area and you need to confess it, or perhaps you aren’t struggling and need to encourage the other person. I don’t think there is a single proper response for every situation, but if you are seeking the Lord’s will in the situation, He will provide you with the wisdom to answer it properly. I know that such questions often put us on the defensive, but we really need to give our pride over to the Lord, and seek His will.
There you go. If you have any thoughts on the subject, please post them on his site, or if you wish, mine.